Recent research shows that approximately 25 percent of Millennials have no intention of getting married. This means that one in four in this generation group will never have a spouse at any point in their life. There were several reasons revealed for this trend, and most of them make sense.
The website Mentalfloss.com defines Baby Boomers as those who were born between the years 1946 to 1964, Generation X from 1965 to 1980, and Millennials from 1981 to 1996. Everyone born from 1997 until now is considered to be a Post-Millennial, or Generation Z. Many in the Millennial age group are products of broken homes and were raised by one parent. This factor alone might explain why a quarter of this generation is marriage-avoidant. Other considerations are numerous economic downturns and shifts in culture that preclude tying the knot. The following explains the five most common reasons why Millennials are not marrying.
They Come from Broken Homes
Children often do not understand the complexities of adult relationships and simply go by what they see. When parents are constantly arguing or engaging in other forms of conflict, kids will think that is what marriage is and want nothing to do with it. In the United States, half of all marriages end in divorce, which seems to indicate the institution is fast becoming a failure. In addition, children raised by only one parent often gravitate toward drugs and crime, and spend time in jail before they become adults. This lower quality of life adds to the avoidance of marriage.
They are Concerned About Money
Another big issue with Millennials is money, namely the expense of getting married and raising a family. The cost of a typical wedding in America is $26,000, and the debt often grows worse from there, especially after the kids come along. Many Millennials, who are often still early in their career paths in their late 20s, do not have the time or financial resources to invest in a marriage, even if they have a partner they enjoy being with. The costly reality of getting married is not offset enough by the benefits of child support and tax breaks.
They Put Their Careers First
After money considerations, one big reason why Millennials are not getting married is because of a strong focus on career. Currently, about 75 percent of students in high school go on to attend college, and some also pursue post-graduate degrees. Most Millennials consider a degree absolutely necessary for a good job and a decent standard of living. The drawback to this is student-loan debt, which can be crippling and take many years to pay off. Graduate students are often in their early 30s by the time they finish their education, and being saddled with debt, they concentrate on their careers and moving up the ladder rather than getting married.
They are Influenced by Feminism
Feminism is a big part of society in the 21st century, and its presence has had an effect on how people view marriage. Millennial women who identify as feminist often have no interest in being married because in their minds, it is a form of ownership and oppression by men. Those who do choose marriage insist on keeping their maiden names so they do not lose their identity, which can cause conflict with their male partner. In some cases, both parties use each other’s surnames, adding to the confusion. Overall, feminism has had a negative impact on marriage, making it more likely that Millennials and future generations will steer clear of it.
They Worry About the Cost of Divorce
While marriage is difficult enough, Millennials also have a strong fear of getting divorced. Ending a marriage is challenging and often carries heavy emotions that affect everyone involved, especially children. The home is broken, and there are financial difficulties on both sides. Many Millennial men do not see marriage as a life option when the possibility of divorce will bring attorney’s fees, custody battles, alimony and child support. After everything is said and done, parents and kids often have far less money than when they started out, and divorce settlements can be one-sided, leaving one party or the other angry, exhausted and full of heartache and regret.